All 4 kids are back in all 4 schools today
(elementary, middle school, high school, and college)
Most of the Christmas decorations are put away
All is calm
Having Blondie home after her first term of college was heart warming and at times heart breaking. The season of life that she is in seemingly is "setting herself apart from her family as much as possible" as she spreads her wings. Oh, yes, I was used to her physical distance - that started in her Junior year of high school when she started driving and didn't join our family at the dinner table as often.
This year we face-timed during our annual family tree hunt...and her attitude came through loud and clear. All my sensitive heart heard was "What-ever Major Loser Get The Picture Duh"....of course I know she loves me and I know she is a beautiful, talented, hard working, goal-oriented, fun and funny daughter with an amazing future ahead of her!!
But this winter break, after only one term of college, it was the emotional distance I wasn't prepared for....like almost everything that our home and our family represented was not good enough, including our faith. Now granted most of her new friends jetted home to sunny California while Blondie endured winter break under a heavy cloud layer and had all 4 of her wisdom teeth pulled so there's that...
I love my "wholesome" life here in the Pacific Northwest where designer labels are not important. Where we still pray at the dinner table. Where we actually sit down at the dinner table. Together. Where I tuck my littlest in at night and read him bedtime stories. Where we don't need plastic surgery or Botox because we have a protective cloud layer that does a good job at preventing wrinkles. At least I thought I didn't need Botox until Blondie suggested otherwise....
This is me without Botox (yes, I'm almost 50 and this was taken in soft lighting, but still, I'm not too concerned about my face.)
I'm grateful for my smile, my eyesight, my healthy teeth....
I'm grateful for my hearing, my voice, my semi-clear skin...
I'm over wanting to look like a super model (not gonna happen in this lifetime)
I think this is what I would look like if I did have some work done (like a bit of Botox, some cheek chiseling, and a lip plump):
No thanks. I'll stick with the natural look (and soft lighting).
Soooo I forge ahead in parenting the 3 that are still in our nest:
and trust that the past 18 years I have invested in Blondie's upbringing was not in vain. That although she might have preferred I spent less time homemaking and more time accumulating wealth and achieving a 1% lifestyle (top 1% of US wealth that is), someday she may see that our family was richer than 99% of the world. That even the poor in America are richer than 68% of the world. And Americans are some of the most ungrateful, unhappy people on the planet!!
Please, Lord, may the weeds not choke out the seeds my Hero and I have planted in the hearts of our children.
Beauty and riches are gifts.
Beauty and riches are in the eye of the beholder.
Labels do not define your worth.
It is more joyful to give than to receive.
Reality T.V. is not Reality!
"Don't let anyone look down upon you because you are young,
but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity."
1 Timothy 4:12 (NIV)
Parenting is important but ultimately they are their own people.
With their own hearts, desires, decisions, moods and chemistry.
So as much as I want them to learn the easy way (by just listening to me),
it is in their destiny and journey to learn some life lessons the hard way.
I'm just a major loser get the picture duh!
Same as I thought my mother was when I was 18.